老人帶孩子會(huì)有兩個(gè)非常重要的問題,第一個(gè)是體力問題,老年人體力跟不上;
體力跟不上導(dǎo)致的結(jié)果就是,他會(huì)容易把孩子甩給電視啊,或者是干嘛,這是第一個(gè)。
第二個(gè)就是語(yǔ)言的問題,就是一個(gè)小孩和另外一個(gè)小孩,長(zhǎng)大以后學(xué)習(xí)成績(jī)?yōu)槭裁床钅敲炊啵?/p>
跟他在三歲以前所接受到的文字量是有關(guān)系的,甚至僅僅取決于這個(gè)文字量。
就他們有人做過一個(gè),紐約大學(xué)的教授,做了大概長(zhǎng)達(dá)30年的一個(gè)研究,
就是把很多的這些小孩對(duì)比跟蹤了30年,后來(lái)發(fā)現(xiàn)一個(gè)中產(chǎn)階級(jí)家庭,和一個(gè)工薪階層的家庭,
在跟孩子說話這件事上,三歲以前會(huì)多出3000萬(wàn)詞匯,
就這些3000萬(wàn)詞匯量導(dǎo)致了這個(gè)孩子大腦里面神經(jīng)元鏈接數(shù)的多少,而人有一個(gè)特點(diǎn),
人的大腦里邊是用就留,沒用就關(guān)閉了。所以要跟老人叮囑,
就讓老人能夠知道說用什么樣的方法,去跟孩子多說豐富的詞匯,多種多樣的詞匯,
而不是就那么幾句,不要跟孩子說小孩話,而要跟孩子說的是正常話,
然后不要把孩子丟給電視,孩子跟電視幾乎學(xué)不會(huì)什么東西,為什么呢?
就是因?yàn)樾『W(xué)東西是靠模仿和反饋,就是我做了一件事兒,看看媽媽有沒有反應(yīng),
有反應(yīng)我就知道是對(duì)還是錯(cuò),但是小孩跟電視做,做完了以后,電視也沒反應(yīng),
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所以他并不知道這東西對(duì)還是不對(duì),于是他學(xué)的就會(huì)比較慢,
老看電視的孩子會(huì)有點(diǎn)蒙,你看他那個(gè)樣有點(diǎn)愣愣的,老看電視看呆了,
所以要讓老人知道,養(yǎng)育孩子的一些基本的方法,怎么給反饋,怎么玩,怎么說話,這很重要。
這里面有一個(gè)非常重要的東西,《你就是孩子最好的玩具》這本書里面講到的,
就是要教孩子情感類詞匯,比如說耐心這個(gè)詞兒,我兒子兩歲時(shí)候教會(huì)他能耐心。
就是因?yàn)槟托倪@個(gè)詞兒,你日常生活中看不到,所以大量的父母根本不教,
所以這個(gè)書里邊就告訴你說,情感引導(dǎo)是最重要的一個(gè)工具。
比如我兒子那時(shí)候喝大牛奶,晚上哇哇我要喝大牛奶,就哭,哭得很兇。
然后這時(shí)候我一看糟了,這性子那么急,然后就給他拿牛奶來(lái),后來(lái)有一天我就跟他講,
因?yàn)槲矣X得不能老這么大喊大叫哈,我就說嘟嘟,你知不知道什么叫耐心?他說我不知道~
我說耐心就是大牛奶還沒來(lái)的時(shí)候也可以不哭,就是我先給他一個(gè)定義,讓他知道。
第1天我就說這事過去了,第2天又哭嗎,然后我說,誒~爸爸昨天跟你講過什么叫耐心還記得么?
然后他就哭,他說沒有大牛奶也不哭~然后我說你試試看能不能表現(xiàn)耐心給媽媽看看,
于是他就忍,使勁忍這樣,然后他媽一過來(lái)我說:
“你看,你兒子表現(xiàn)出耐心來(lái)了,你兒子很厲害,學(xué)會(huì)耐心了!”
這叫情感引導(dǎo),所以你幫助他做對(duì),因?yàn)榇笕司鸵獛秃⒆映砷L(zhǎng)么。
你幫助他做對(duì)了以后,你要給他肯定說這個(gè)是對(duì)的,這個(gè)叫做耐心,定義下來(lái)了。
后來(lái),有一天我在那看手機(jī),他說我要看你的手機(jī)來(lái)找我,我說耐心,然后他說等待!
我說耐心他知道等待哈,他以能夠?qū)W會(huì)大人世界的語(yǔ)言為樂,
他覺得這是他跟別的小孩不一樣的地方,所以你要教他耐心,教他堅(jiān)持,教他這個(gè)自律,
自律是非常重要的東西,我說你這種行為叫做自律,你有很強(qiáng)的自律能力,所以爸爸很高興。
我也很贊同我們要研究和學(xué)習(xí)一些方法,但最最重要的就是,你要用心讀懂孩子,
而不是說靠一本書去理解他,那么你要讀懂的話,就需要你花時(shí)間,你要有耐心,
你要每天和他在一起,他的一些變化你能夠發(fā)現(xiàn),然后在這個(gè)過程當(dāng)中你就會(huì)知道,
老大和老二是不一樣的,對(duì)老大你可以怎么樣做,對(duì)老二你就不能這樣做,
我認(rèn)為在教育當(dāng)中實(shí)際上還是需要這個(gè)過程的,也就是說真正把讀懂孩子作為我們第一個(gè)要求,
而這個(gè)讀懂的方式就是你一定要大量的時(shí)間盡可能多陪伴他,而不是說一見到他,
你給他一個(gè)玩具、看手機(jī)等等,孩子有時(shí)候哭,你就說別哭了,哇哇就跟那吼對(duì)吧,
實(shí)際上你要知道,他為什么哭,他什么情況下他會(huì)出現(xiàn)這個(gè)問題,所以這個(gè)過程我覺得對(duì)父母來(lái)講要求挺高的。
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